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The burden of making medical decisions for a loved one can cause distress and even post traumatic stress disorder, according to a report published in the Annals of Internal Medicine.
When a patient is physically or mentally unable to make medical choices, his or her fate falls into the hands of others, usually family members or friends. They ultimately choose whether to start dialysis, have a risky surgery or put a person on life support.
The prevailing monlcer down jackets logic is that family members know the patient best and can make the most appropriate medical decisions. «We think how else are we going to do this when people can’t do it for themselves? It turns out the number of patients who can’t make moncler mens jackets decisions are particularly high. Especially in the end of life when 50% of the patients can’t make those decisions.»
That leaves the family with heavy responsibilities. In moncler sale research interviews, family members agonized over the dilemma. This decision haunted them months and even years later.
«They feel like they’re being asked to be the agent of the demise of someone they really care about,» Wendler said. «Not surprisingly, that’s really stressful and hard.»
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«In the paper, people said things like, ‘I wouldn’t wish being a surrogate on my worst enemy,’ cheap moncler sale and ‘I felt cheap moncler outlet like I was the jury to sentence to death the person I loved most in the world.’ You read that, you can see how traumatic it was for them,» Wendler said.
moncler sale outlet After examining 40 studies, Wendler estimated that the about a third experienced substantial distress, another third felt moderate distress and less than 10% had a positive experience. Because the various studies used different measures, it’s hard to give precise estimates, he said. moncler sale outlet
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You weren responsible in any way for her death, not even by it. Her body was already dying, you just consented to let nature take its course rather than prolong it by artificial means. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been to lose both parents while still so young. I sure you would understand if your children were faced with making the same decision for you, and that you would want them to continue with only fond memories in their hearts, not an undue burden of guilt over what was the only real choice.
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moncler outlet online Yes, I echo that. I was 26 when the doctors gathered us together to ask us if we wanted to try to keep my father alive or let him go. My mother and brothers all looked at me (the eldest) to make the decision. It was agonizing. I have had nightmares about it for the 25 years since then, and episodes of depression. Even with therapy, it is still one of the most painful things I have had to do, fraught with doubt. I wish a clear cut death on people, with no lingering or decisions to make for their loved ones moncler outlet online.